Archive for February, 2010

Worth Avoiding: Exes

So to put everything out there, here’s the brief version of my relationship history:

7th grade (c. 1995) first love, first relationship.

9th grade (14 years old) first real kiss…and it was gross.

10th grade (1998) first healthy relationship, lasting about 2 years.

11th grade (1999/2000) few girlfriends here and there.

Summer between high school graduation & freshman year of college: beginning of the longest relationship to date (4 years, give or take. And I waited till the end of those four years to finally kiss her…)

2005, returned from a mission, lots of dating, not really any relationships until I started dating who would be my first wife.

2006, first marriage, lasting a whopping 13 months (to the day!)

2007-2009, random hookups, pointless first dates, watched a lot of movies and enjoyed the company of my dog Toby, the single “person” that got me through that divorce.

2009, decided to start dating April, my wife. We were engaged a month later and married 3 months after that.

Which brings us to 2010. Sorry if the recap wasn’t brief enough for you. And yes, I was married before, which I’m grateful for, because I learned a lot, and am a better husband now for those things, as painful as they may have been.

Now, I make a pretty conscious effort to not have contact with my ex-wife. However I do consider some previous girlfriends good friends that I stay in online contact with – facebook, twitter, yelp, chat, etc.

So I was a little disconcerted when I get an email out of the blue from my ex-wife. I haven’t talked with her since I let her know I was getting remarried, and I don’t sit up at night waiting for the next time she emails or calls.

Now it wasn’t anything serious, she was emailing to say she was thinking about my mom and to let me know our old dog died. No harm done right? Well, maybe not immediately. The harm comes when I have to spend time thinking about why she wrote, as I have felt that due to the circumstances surrounding our divorce she’s quite a manipulative person. I go to my wife and let her know that she emailed me, because we have a very trusting relationship filled with honest and open communication. But what effect does it have on her?

Anyway, I’ll spare you my day to day troubles. My life has just shown me that it’s best to avoid exes when you’re in a new relationship. They cause nothing but trouble, and especially if your significant other is less trusting and loving as mine, they could cause serious problems in your relationship. There are very very self conscious and delicate people that could be devastated from something like this.

Exes: worth avoiding.


Worth Avoiding: SmashBurger

So Alan & I went to Smashburger for lunch today.

When you’re a restaurant, you have a handful of things you’re going to be judged or rated on by your clientele, and they vary depending on what kind of restaurant you are. A mexican food joint, for example, is going to be rated on chips & salsa, tortillas, horchata, etc. When I enter a burger joint, here’s what I’m looking at/for:






Now, you could probably nail 3 out of the 5 and still earn my repeat business. But if you have only 1 or 2 good things…you’re S.O.L in my book.

Smashburger has a decent decor, and seemingly enough seating, until you place your order and turn around. The problem isn’t the lack of seating, its that you can combine two two-person tables to make a four-person table, and then nobody resets it…so you have a bunch of 1 and 2 person groups taking up 4 seats…

I ordered the regular fries, and they were ok. Nothing special, nothing unique, and I wasn’t savoring them to the last salty greasy morsel.

The fry sauce was a little off putting. I’m not sure what their mix ins were, but it didn’t yield a desirable outcome.

I ordered the root beer float, as Alan got a shake. The root beer float was good, thanks to ol’ reliable IBC. The shake however was nothing to rave about.

The service was good, as the employees were above-average-ly friendly and willing to be of service. However, and I was actually kind of happy this happened so I could see how they would respond, but they didn’t bring out my root beer float with Alan’s shake, nor did they bring it out with my food….nor did they bring it out 5, 6, 10 minutes later. I had to get up and ask them about it. Now I was nice and pleasant. I don’t get off by being a huge jerk in these sort of situations, I’d much rather be the unusually nice guy…

So they bring the root beer float out a few minutes later, and ask if there’s anything else they can do. “Nope”. “How’s everything tasting?” Good. Thanks!”

Now, if you want to recover with flying colors in the restaurant industry, you come back with something more than a question. My/Alan’s suggestion? Bring out a gift card. Even if its just for a free shake, you’re going to get me to come back in because of how well you handled the situation.

So there you have it…my first food critique of The Perspective Collective. (Hereafter to be referred to as TPC? We’ll see)

Verdict? Smashburger is worth avoiding as you can spend less and get more, in almost every “category” at Five Guys.

Worth Repeating: Early Rising

Why is it that on days that I sleep in, even if the total amount of sleep garnered from that night of sleep is under 8 hours, I am groggy?

Conversely, I could fall asleep at 1 am, wake up at 6, and feel rejuvinated, well rested, and alert; ready to bring on the day.

I’m not sure why, but despite my actions, I believe in the positive effects of “early to bed, early to rise…” I’ve had better days on 4 or 5 hours of sleep than I’ve ever had on 8 or 10.

It seems counterintuitive, I know, but it works.